We have all felt fear at least once in our lives. And despite how many would say they have never felt it, I believe everyone has also felt insecure once. These are two basic and natural feelings to experience. It comes in many forms–extremely intense or very minor. In either case, the feeling is real to the one experiencing it. And unless you have gone through it, you cannot understand the depth of how it can cripple a person.
As a new writer, you will experience these emotions, time and time again. Even veterans will tell you that at times these emotions will take hold of them. The secret to overcoming these negative feelings is to sit down, clear your head of thoughts, and take deep, slow breathes. Then ask yourself, what do I have to lose?
What do you have to lose? Your soul? Your life? Is the person you are about to pitch your story to going to kill you if they do not like what you have to say? Is your soul in danger if you do not get that book contract with the major publishing house you have had your eye on? Is your heart going to stop beating if you do not final in the writer contest you joined? If your answer is no, then what do you have to lose by trying?
How can you learn and improve if you always win and succeed? You will only remain hungry when you have not satisfied your need. So do not look at those closed doors or rejection letters as failures. They are learning tools. Appetizers. They are luring you closer to your dream of being that successful, published author.
No one wants to look back on their lives and wonder, what if? So keep writing. Keep entering contests. And keep pitching those stories. And every time you feel that fear and insecurity creeping up on you, stop, sit down, and breathe. Then ask yourself, what do I have to lose?